Sunday, August 23, 2015

How Do The Roles Of Men And Women Complement Each Other In Families?

Get this week's lesson here.

This was the video I chose to introduce the lesson this week.  Thank you young women for being an excuse for getting my husband's reaction to some big news on camera.  

P.S. This video was taken months ago, I am definitely a lot bigger and more preggers  now than I was then.  

For this lesson I borrowed a lot of material from Linda K. Burton's talk We'll Ascend Together.  I used the quotes and pictures she shared of the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve talking about their sweet spouses and displayed them on the board.

Speaking about his wife, Donna, President Boyd K. Packer said, “Because of the office I hold, I have a solemn obligation to tell the truth: She’s perfect.”

“She is the sunshine of my life,” said President Dieter F. Uchtdorf of his wife, Harriet.

President Henry B. Eyring, referring to his wife, Kathleen, said, “She [is] a person who has always made me want to be the very best that I can be.”

And President Thomas S. Monson, speaking of his beloved Frances, said, “She was the love of my life, my trusted confidant, and my closest friend. To say that I miss her does not begin to convey the depth of my feelings.” 

I shared with the girls a couple notes I took in college from my Dating and Courtship class about the differences between men and women.  They seemed to get a kick out of that.  Things like how men on average use around 12,000 words a day and women speak about 25,000.  It was fun comparing the differences and noticing how much both genders balance each other out.

I then shared with them a poem I wrote a long time ago about a specific love story and tried to have them guess which couple inspired me to write this...

AFRAID AND ALONE, FROM THE DARK SLEEP YOU SAVED ME. 
THE DUST-LIT STARS IN YOUR EYES HAD ENSLAVED ME.
FROM THAT MOMENT ON WAS WHEN I KNEW
TO THE DEEPEST OF OCEANS I'D FOLLOW YOU

WE WALKED BAREFOOT ON THE UNTOUCHED EARTH
LIKE OUR UNTOUCHED SOULS AS THIS NEW LOVE BIRTHED.
OUR DREAMS BECAME ONE, ONE FLESH, ONE BONE.
I'D FOLLOW YOU TO THE FOG UNKNOWN.

I REMEMBER WHEN YOU CRIED, 
AFRAID THAT I WOULD SAY GOODBYE.  
EMPTY PARADISE,
COLD AND BLUE.
INTO THE DARKNESS I'LL FOLLOW YOU.

I'LL HOLD YOU CLOSE INSIDE MY ARMS
AND FALL INTO THE ICY STORMS.
WITH YOU WITH ME WILL BE ENOUGH.
WE'LL FIND THE LIGHT BENEATH THE ROUGH.

Some of them guessed Princess Ariel and Eric from The Little Mermaid.  Totally makes sense with my random "deepest of oceans" reference.  But this poem is actually about Adam and Eve.  They were so in love you guys!  So in love!



Genesis 3:16-19 really stuck out to me because this is where our gender roles truly began.  IN THE VERY BEGINNING WITH THE VERY FIRST COUPLE!!!  Eve was assigned to bring forth children and the ground was cursed so Adam would work hard from the sweat of his brow to provide for his family.

 16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.*
 17 And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life;
 18 Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field;
 19 In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.
*Focusing on the end of verse 16, President Spencer W. Kimball said: "I have a questions about the word rule.  It gives the wrong impression.  I would prefer to use the word preside because that's what he does.  A righteous husband presides over his wife and family."

This I've mentioned before in a previous lesson:  Think about football.  The quarterback "presides" over his team and is given the leadership position.  If everyone on the team was the QB it wouldn't function properly.  Although the QB's role is different from a receiver, or a blocker, each team member is just as important and needed to balance out the team and to win the game.


So grateful Heavenly Father has blessed us with families.  So grateful for the roles He has trusted us with to raise a family and I can't wait to being my journey of motherhood in the near future.

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